On being single at this age

This is the age of social media, of dating online, of getting to know strangers on the internet, and having long distance relationships, complicated and “love wins” relationships. 

Is it really easier to find love these days or it gets even more complicated?

I am not a love guru. I am not a psychiatrist. I am not here to advise everyone what to do because I am not an expert on that thing. As a matter of fact, I already passed the marrying age of 26! Even more so, I am already passed the dates of the calendar! That does affect me?

Some how no, some how yes!

We live in a culture of stages wherein people move up from that phase at a certain age. 

For example, in a Philippine set up, a youth should already be graduated at the age of 21, have a good job, should marry at the age of 24-25, have baby right after the marriage, and live a normal life. 

So, if I am 21 and I am not yet finished with my studies, everyone comes to question me, wha’ts taken me so long??

If im 25 and up, and not yet married. Everyone keeps asking, why are you not married??

If i married, and I don’t have baby right after the marriage, you will be bombarded with questions like “why don’t you have a baby yet??”

Therefore, that does mean I don’t have a normal life? That does mean I missed something out of life? That does mean I am a lesser person?

Come on people, be good with one another. Do not over stress others just because they ran out of time. Just because they are left behind the timeline of life. Just because they do not jump on the bandwagon. 

I am one of those left behind. And I feel bad for those people who cannot understand. We are normal people like you. We can understand. We can feel the pressure. We can feel your spirit pushing us!

Ofcourse we do want to stay in the timeline. We do want to marry, where everyone elses is married. We do want to have babies, just like everyone else. We do like to live in the moment where you are living. But God designed us to stand out and to be this way. 

Be kind enough to understand. Instead of pushing, try to pull by Sending kind words, encouragement and Inspiration. Put your shoes into ours. And feel what it feels like to answer a question with no definite answer. 


5 thoughts on “On being single at this age

  1. Hi there! You subscribed to my blog so I came to visit! I’m about to pass “the marrying age of 26” and I’m not even close to getting married. Hahaha oh well!


  2. An answer might be, my age is the new 24, or something along those lines so the message is the age range for such an event has changed with the times . . . I say, enjoy your singlehood. Now that we can live longer, what’s the rush in getting anchored down so young, right? Thanks for the follow.

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  3. you’re absolutely right! I was in a similar situation, my mother and aunts were pushing… till the day when my mother heard from a future teller that if I marry before 28 I will divorce very quickly๐Ÿ˜ƒ. And I’ve got married at the age of almost 29 ๐Ÿ™‚


  4. I say single or not, you shouldn’t be bothered by relatives and friends bombarding you with questions like why single? Why not married yet?
    We have to enjoy life and live it on our own pace ๐Ÿ™‚


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